Maybe it’s something in the air. Sometimes I can’t help but notice a pattern or a recurring theme in the issues that people come to see me about.
Lately I’ve been seeing quite a few people who were all struggling with the same problem: they weren’t sure what they really want to do in life.
They all believed in the mantra of following your passion and doing what your heart tells you to do. But they just didn’t know exactly what that was.
Oh sure enough, most of them had some sort of idea – to varying degrees. But you know what it’s like: life has this uncanny ability to confuse us, to make us doubt ourselves and our calling in life.
To the point where you’re simply not sure anymore what the voice of your heart is telling you. Or even, what the voice of your heart is.
Because as you may have noticed, your rational mind is very good at pretending to be the Almighty Know-It-All.
Find your joy…
My first advice in these cases is to stop worrying about the question. The harder you look for the answer, the more it will elude you.
Instead, ask yourself these simple and yet fundamental questions:
- What is it in your life that gives you joy?
- What makes you happy?
- What makes you feel alive?
And please don’t limit yourself to ideas that you think will allow you to make money. Because that only introduces pressure and insecurity into the equation. And that’s simply deadly for your creativity.
So the money bit comes later. Much later.
First you need to be honest with yourself. Dig deep, be bold, be daring. It doesn’t matter if you think your answers might seem silly, naive or simple to other people. Let them come up with their own answers.
Why are these questions important?
This isn’t about finding something that’s fun to do, just so you can live happily ever after in La-la Land without a care in the world. This goes deeper.
Finding out what gives you joy and makes you feel alive – that’s what brings you one step closer to discovering your True Self. It provides you with an important clue to what your calling in this life of yours is.
Because Joy is the essence of the energy being that you truly are.
But what if…
I know that you might be thinking right now, “But what if I feel I don’t want to do anything at all? What if I get joy out of relaxing, sitting still, reading a book or going on a long walk?”
My answer to you would then be, “Those are still valid answers!”
Because the next set of questions is where the magic happens. They will dig even deeper into your inner world:
- Why do these things make you happy?
- What do the joyful feelings they give you, really mean to you?
- What do they represent?
Those answers might be a bit harder to come up with. So take your time. Let the questions sink in. Allow them to simmer gently in the thick stew of your subconsciousness. Try to have some quiet moments to yourself during this time, as that will help the process. Eventually, something good will come bubbling up to the surface.
Finding out why you get joy out of the things you love doing – that’s what brings you to the core of your personal and spiritual values in your present life.
Once you have clarity about that, all that’s left is finding ways to turn those values into action.
First steps matter… a lot
If the process I just sketched out for you seems a bit simple, you’re right. It is simple! But not easy. Easy and simple are two very different words.
I realise this little exercise in soul-searching probably won’t instantly grant you a crystal-clear vision of your future (and then again, it might). It takes time, effort and some amount of courage.
But it’s a first step. And in life, taking the first step is the most important key in getting things moving forward.
It’s usually also the most difficult and most scary part. But believe me, it’s totally worth it.
And if you feel you need help with finding your answers, I’m here for you.
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